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Ambivalence in marriage often leads to divorce

On Behalf of | Jun 27, 2023 | Divorce

It’s common to think of couples choosing to divorce after a significant fight or a serious event that changes the dynamics of the relationship. But in many cases, divorce happens when one or both parties feel ambivalent. Couples in New Jersey and other states may lose interest in their partner and the marriage, while still being unsure if divorce is the right answer. Ambivalence, where one has both positive and negative feelings about the relationship, can lead to confusion about the status of a marriage. 

Why ambivalence sometimes leads to divorce 

Feeling ambivalent in a relationship can make one uncertain about the future. While ambivalence doesn’t necessarily lead to volatile altercations like anger or sadness often do, it can cause a couple to grow apart. For some couples, it may help if they seek advice from a marriage counselor or therapist. Some couples may be able to save a marriage if they can find ways to improve their relationship. 

When ambivalence is prevalent in a marriage, both parties may feel like divorce is the best choice for everyone involved. Even when one party is relatively happy in the relationship, if the other party is obviously unhappy, the relationship can be doomed. Couples who are not prepared to divorce can try to improve their relationship by learning how to deal with conflicts in their relationship and by working on communication.  

When divorce is the right choice 

When a couple has no defining moment that signifies the marriage is over, deciding when to divorce can be difficult. But when a couple does decide that the marriage is not salvageable, it’s important for both parties to seek legal representation from an experienced family law attorney. A New Jersey attorney can provide guidance on how best to get through the divorce process with as little stress as possible.